Comments for Transgender Mental Health http://tgmentalhealth.com Discussions of Mental Health Issues for Gender Variant and Transgendered Individuals, Friends and Family Mon, 09 Apr 2012 07:53:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ Comment on Internalized Trans-Phobia by Jessica http://tgmentalhealth.com/2011/03/25/internalized-trans-phobia/#comment-4415 Mon, 09 Apr 2012 07:53:21 +0000 http://tgmentalhealth.com/?p=426#comment-4415 > They can make you feel like hiding a big part of yourself or pretend to be someone else.
> Sometimes internalized trans-phobia can keep you from connecting with other trans-folk.

This part bothers me a lot, while technically I’m a “trans girl” according to my medical record I don’t identify as trans, I don’t even see it as part of me; it’s just something on my medical record. If I was going to be open about my trans status that to me would be pretending to be someone else because I just don’t see myself as a trans girl but just a girl, I don’t see why a distinction needs to be made in the first place apart from to abide by the cis/heteronormativity of the society we live in; in order to make straight cis people feel safe that they can split us from other girls so they know who and who will no threaten their sexuality.

While I have no problem being in trans communities, what does bother me is the myriad of insults I get when I tell people that I’m not trans, these including: being told I have internalized transphobia, that I need to accept myself, that I need to learn to love myself, that I need to learn to not be ashamed of myself and that I shouldn’t hide that part of myself.

These statements are what make me feel uncomfortable in the trans community, not an internalized transphobic, the fact that I have a different outlook on things from a lot of them makes them think they know enough about me to tell me that I’m ashamed and don’t love myself.

I am not hiding who I am by not making trans a part of myself, I am being myself.

]]> Comment on The Prevalence of Transgenderism – an update. by valeriekeefe http://tgmentalhealth.com/2012/02/13/the-prevalence-of-transgenderism-an-update/#comment-4102 Sun, 11 Mar 2012 01:19:53 +0000 http://tgmentalhealth.com/?p=664#comment-4102 Forgive me, but 1 in 3000 would be 0.0333….% not 0.3%, which would be 1 in 333.

]]> Comment on A new children’s book: “Be Who You Are” by Jennifer Carr http://tgmentalhealth.com/2011/01/09/a-new-children%e2%80%99s-book-%e2%80%9cbe-who-you-are%e2%80%9d/#comment-4065 Mon, 05 Mar 2012 22:06:09 +0000 http://tgmentalhealth.com/?p=343#comment-4065 Thank you so much for sharing my book with your audience. It’s been a rewarding journey toward the truth, and we’re very grateful. I appreciate your support! Best, Jennifer Carr

]]> Comment on The Prevalence of Transgenderism – an update. by A.B. Kaplan http://tgmentalhealth.com/2012/02/13/the-prevalence-of-transgenderism-an-update/#comment-3850 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 18:19:07 +0000 http://tgmentalhealth.com/?p=664#comment-3850 Hi Ted,
Thank you. I did see the paper.
It seems to make estimates (probably good ones) based on the surveys I’d already listed
in my chart (Conway, Reed and Conron) so I thought it would be confusing to include it.

]]> Comment on The Prevalence of Transgenderism – an update. by Ted Heck http://tgmentalhealth.com/2012/02/13/the-prevalence-of-transgenderism-an-update/#comment-3848 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 16:58:58 +0000 http://tgmentalhealth.com/?p=664#comment-3848 Hi Ami, thanks for this post! I don’t see it referenced here, so I thought I would ask if you had seen the Williams Institute white paper from April 2011, “How Many People are Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender?” I can send you the PDF if you would like. I’m not sure if it’s available online. Their findings indicate a 0.3% rate or 1 in 3,000.

]]> Comment on The Prevalence of Transgenderism – an update. by Blog post recommendations - Open Minded Health » Open Minded Health http://tgmentalhealth.com/2012/02/13/the-prevalence-of-transgenderism-an-update/#comment-3749 Tue, 14 Feb 2012 20:21:53 +0000 http://tgmentalhealth.com/?p=664#comment-3749 [...] Transgender Mental Health reported on studies of the incidence of transgenderism. They summarized the results nicely in both table and graph form. The article is here. [...]

]]> Comment on SNL contribues to trans-phobia with ‘Estro-Maxx’ parody by Katie http://tgmentalhealth.com/2011/02/02/snl-contribues-to-trans-phobia-with-estro-maxx-parody/#comment-1921 Tue, 18 Oct 2011 23:51:30 +0000 http://tgmentalhealth.com/?p=380#comment-1921 I saw this when it was on TV and couldn’t even believe what I was seeing. I couldn’t and can’t see how it’s funny.

]]> Comment on Thoughts on “coming out” as Transgender to family by M2F Change http://tgmentalhealth.com/2009/12/26/thoughts-on-coming-out-as-transgender-to-family/#comment-1887 Sat, 15 Oct 2011 16:36:13 +0000 http://tgmentalhealth.com/?p=132#comment-1887 [...] advice than I would for someone who wanted to tell their parents that they are gay. Just do it. This article has some advice. I think finding a counselor of some type who has some knowledge and understanding trans issues is [...]

]]> Comment on On Regret of Gender Transition by beneficii http://tgmentalhealth.com/2011/06/18/on-regret-of-gender-transition/#comment-1410 Wed, 24 Aug 2011 04:45:22 +0000 http://tgmentalhealth.com/?p=578#comment-1410 Hi Ami,

What do you think of this?

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I think that a case can be made that depraved indifference is being exhibited by these two solitudes: conservative religious spokespersons, and professionals active in treating transsexuals.
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http://www.religioustolerance.org/transsexu23.htm

I like this author, as I think he keeps a very good website, but I think he goes too far with that comment, because those professionals are really trying as hard as they can to assist transsexual people. It seems to me that the author of this piece is criticizing those professionals for not engaging in serious dialogue with religious conservatives, whatever that would entail.

]]> Comment on Internalized Trans-Phobia by Jill Ewdards http://tgmentalhealth.com/2011/03/25/internalized-trans-phobia/#comment-1409 Tue, 23 Aug 2011 19:56:30 +0000 http://tgmentalhealth.com/?p=426#comment-1409 Thanks so much for your kind words and understanding. But this blog is not about me and I realize that the tidbit you see is of a person who out of ones time and place. This blog is for those who are younger like you. I had no right to speak up. So as I will continue be Jill Edwards as I can be no other, I will cease to be that untimely lady in your presence.

Thanks again

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